When Kathryn Stockett* (a White woman) supposedly became a mouthpiece for Black women through a book, The Help, it was (and still is) applauded. When Tyler Perry* (a Black man) supposedly became mouthpiece for Black women through various plays and films, he became some sort of "documentarian of facts" not a fiction feature filmmaker? However, whenever I as Black woman, (and gladly by no means a celebrity) speak for myself (online or offline), the first response I receive is people seeking to silence me. It's their natural "go to" response. Black men and White women are often accepted as authorities on Black women's experiences...especially using forms of art (books, plays, films and more) to convey those experiences. However Black women ourselves seem to be the last possible accepted authority on our own experiences, emotions and insights whether we're using art to convey them...or even just...talking.
A Black woman comedian and artist named Chescaleigh made a hilarious video (based on her close friend who is a White woman) called Sh*t White Girls Say To Black Girls. With over 5 million views and counting, this viral video accounts some of the awkward conversations on race that occur specifically between women (not men) of these two races. What makes it funny is the humorous delivery, facial expressions and tone used by the talented Chescaleigh. However, unlike many of the other "Sh*t ______ Says" videos and blogs out there (many people are making them now) this one seemed to cause the most uproar and attention. Unfortunately, it isn't only because many people had a good laugh at the truthfulness of the video. Again, this is a Black woman voicing concerns of Black women. (Oh d...d...dear, how can she be an authority on her own life! Nuts!) Apparently, Black women having voices for ourselves and using them is still deemed socially problematic to some people. We're supposed to sit back and allow others to be our mouthpieces while other people have free reign to share their own experiences and views via art or conversation?